Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Calling Before You Head to the Restaurant...



Have you ever called a restaurant in advance? You want to find out if you are able to eat at the restaurant prior to going, correct? You ask to speak to a manager. You ask all of the right questions. The responses seem great and you are excited about going!  Then it happens... the odd comments. Your hopes crushed. You shake your head and realize that they don't have a clue how to service FA patrons. You decide to stick to the house salad and fresh lemon wedges to play it safe.

I am traveling out of state next week. Friends want to take me to a particular restaurant. They know I have special dietary needs, and found this great restaurant that has a number of vegetarian meals as well as gluten free menu items. I know they mean well. However, vegetarian restaurants often concern me since they tend to use a lot of dairy and/or eggs in their kitchen.

I called, asked to speak to the manager… after being questioned about who I was and what I wanted (common to get rid of potential sales calls), the manager eventually answered in a very cheerful manner.

Manager: Hi. This is So and So. How can I help you?

Me: I’ll be traveling next week, and friends want to take me to your restaurant. I have a number of allergies and was wondering if the kitchen was able to accommodate. Three of my allergies are milk, eggs and wheat. I know you use dairy and eggs in many of your dishes. Is any of your food able to be made without cross contamination?

Manager: Yes. We cook for people with food allergies all of the time. This is not a problem. For example, the chicken is baked (there are maybe 5 to 7 dishes that contain meat or fish).

Me: The chef will know to use different utensils, gloves, etc?

Manager: yes. But we cook lasagna in the same kitchen as the chicken.

Me: That isn’t a problem unless the lasagna is placed above the chicken in the oven with potential cheese falling onto chicken

Manager: ***nothing said***

Me: Is the lasagna cooked above the chicken?

Manager: All you have to do is tell your server you have a severe allergy to whatever it is and they will make sure your food is cooked safely. Tell them if it is cheese, butter, etc.

Me: **becoming more suspicious by the moment** Are you saying that I need to tell the chef that I’m allergic to milk, cheese, butter, yogurt, cream, etc… I can’t say I’m allergic to milk and that be sufficient?

Manager: It is best to tell them everything. We had a guest say they were allergic to cheese. We made their toast and it had butter on it. They weren’t aware they needed to leave the butter off.

Me: I’ll stick to the house salad with some lemon wedges

Manager: You don’t need to do that. We have…. **all I hear is blah blah blah**

Me: Thank you for your time and answering my questions. Have a good night

If I have to explain every ingredient in their kitchen that I cannot have, not just the actual original ingredient before it is transformed then that is a kitchen that doesn’t understand how to handle food allergies. Frankly it makes me have other concerns as well. How do you not know that butter comes from milk??

Sigh…  I’m grateful that the manager gave examples and further explanations. Made it easier for me to realize that are not equipped to handle cooking for FA patrons.

It isn’t’ a surprise that I’m not excited about eating out anymore. 

Monday, November 9, 2015

Back on the elimination diet... Hooray!




It is me again... Who else would it be?!

Once again, I started the elimination diet. Took me a couple of days fumbling around with food to get myself there, but I did it! Hooray!

I reminded myself the purpose of what I'm doing. Truly, that is what worked for me to get back on the horse (so to speak... I'm highly allergic to horses!!).

I did have any desire to not be able to eat other foods. That thought kept me from wanting to take the steps necessary to take this venture on in full force. I'm keeping in mind that I will be traveling to CA to visit friends and family soon. I began to think that I should wait until I returned to start. However, for the short time I did it last month, I felt incredibly better! I decided that even if I do not get off the elimination diet as well as I should, that it was wiser to start now. I'll be eating out a great deal while gone for those 9 days... and then there is the holiday to consider!

When I return, I'll probably need to get back on this path, but it won't be as long since my frame of mind is where I need it to be. Plus, I won't go crazy while on vacation and eating out all over southern CA. Taking steps now to do what I know is best for my body helps remind me that foods I've been eating have had a negative impact on how I feel. Are they allergies? Intolerances? Sensitivities? Give it a name... doesn't really matter. Result is the same.

When I eat certain foods (not sure what yet... I'm working on that!), I feel one or more of the following ways:


  • Lethargic
  • Exhausted to the point where I have to sleep
  • Grouchy / irritable
  • Moody
  • Itchy
  • Unclear thinking 
  • React instead of respond

Things like that and more. You might be thinking... what does reacting instead of responding have to do with food issues? Well, it CAN have a major impact on all that goes on in your body.

I'm in a few Facebook groups. The vast majority of adults discussing their allergies also discuss other medical problems. I believe they are related. Do I have proof? Scientific evidence? No. It is my gut feeling considering all that I've been learning about having ADHD. I know that a person with ADHD that has food issues (allergies, sensitivities, etc) have a much harder time (ADHD is amplified) while eating those foods. Since the reaction isn't a "stereotypical" allergic reaction, they don't know the food is a contributing factor. They think an allergy only means that you break out in hives and might need to see a doctor.

As much as I want to be annoyed with the fact I'll be eliminating for foods from my daily life... I can't be. I'm incredibly grateful to learn that I have control of what is going on with me. I know that by eating whatever I feel like eating, that the way I act and/or feel will be undesirable. Thank goodness I have a chance to change that... as annoying as it may appear some moments in time. :)

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

What's Your View Point?

Remember this...
It is YOUR responsibility to make your world work for you. No one else's. Being willing to accept that you are 100% responsible for all that happens in your life will give you a unique perspective. Try it... see if you can stand in that thought. Watch how your view of what is happening around you changes.
Perhaps you'll get lucky and make different choices from your new view point. What's the worse that could happen if you gave it a try?